Question 1

Why does Paul say he could command Philemon but chooses to beg instead?

Accepted Answer

Paul knows he has authority in Christ and could simply tell Philemon what to do about Onesimus. But he chooses a different path. He appeals “for love’s sake” and speaks gently, as an older man and a prisoner for Jesus. This shows how Christian leadership should work. Even when we have the right to insist, love looks for a willing heart, not forced obedience. Paul wants Philemon’s choice to be free and joyful, so that any kindness to Onesimus comes from real love, not pressure.

Question 2

Who is Onesimus in this passage and what changed in his life?

Accepted Answer

Onesimus was Philemon’s servant who had been “unprofitable” to him, likely by running away and possibly doing some wrong. While Paul was in prison, Onesimus met him, heard the gospel, and was converted. Paul calls him “my son” whom he “begot in my bonds,” showing a close spiritual bond. Now Paul says Onesimus has become “profitable” both to him and to Philemon. The change is not just in his behaviour but in his identity. He is now a brother in Christ, not only a servant.

Question 3

What does it mean that Philemon should receive Onesimus not only as a servant but as a brother?

Accepted Answer

Paul says Onesimus is “not now as a servant, but above a servant, a brother beloved.” This does not erase Onesimus’ earthly role in Philemon’s household, but it adds something deeper. In Christ they now share the same Lord, the same salvation, and the same family of faith. Philemon is to look at him first as a beloved brother, then as a servant. This lifts Onesimus’ dignity and shows that in God’s family, social rank is secondary to their shared identity as brothers in the Lord.

Question 4

Why does Paul offer to pay any debt or wrong that Onesimus may owe Philemon?

Accepted Answer

Paul tells Philemon that if Onesimus has wronged him or owes him anything, he should put it on Paul’s account. Paul even says in his own hand that he will repay. By doing this, Paul takes the cost of reconciliation on himself. He removes a barrier that might keep Philemon from fully forgiving and welcoming Onesimus. This reflects how Christians are called to bear one another’s burdens. It also points to how Christ takes our debt on himself so that we can be restored to God.

Question 5

What does Paul mean when he says Onesimus departed for a season so Philemon might receive him forever?

Accepted Answer

When Paul says, “perhaps he therefore departed for a season, that thou shouldest receive him for ever,” he is gently suggesting that God may have used a painful situation for good. Onesimus’ leaving was a loss for a time, but through that, he met Paul, heard the gospel, and was changed. Now he can return not only as a worker but as an eternal brother in Christ. Paul does not claim to know God’s secret plan, but he invites Philemon to see the situation through the lens of God’s providence.

Question 6

What does Paul mean by telling Philemon to receive Onesimus as he would receive Paul himself?

Accepted Answer

Paul says, “If thou count me therefore a partner, receive him as myself.” Paul and Philemon share a deep partnership in the gospel. Paul now places Onesimus inside that relationship. He is asking Philemon to treat Onesimus with the same respect, love, and welcome he would give Paul. This is a strong appeal. It ties how Philemon treats Onesimus directly to how he values his partnership with Paul. It shows that how we treat fellow believers should match how we claim to honour Christ’s servants and friends.

Question 7

Why does Paul stress that Philemon’s kindness should be willing and not forced?

Accepted Answer

Paul says he did not want to act “without thy mind,” so that Philemon’s benefit would not be “of necessity, but willingly.” Paul could have kept Onesimus to serve him in prison and then simply informed Philemon. Instead, he sends Onesimus back so Philemon has a real choice. Kindness that is squeezed out by pressure does not honour God in the same way as kindness that flows from a willing heart. Paul trusts that the love already in Philemon will move him to go even beyond what Paul asks.

Question 8

How does this passage show the power of grace to change relationships?

Accepted Answer

In this short section, a broken relationship between a master and a runaway servant is being rebuilt on new terms. Onesimus has been changed by grace from “unprofitable” to “profitable.” Philemon is called to move from seeing him only as a servant to seeing him as a beloved brother. Paul steps in between them, offering to pay any debt and appealing gently, not harshly. All this flows from Christ’s grace, which creates a new family where forgiveness, mercy, and partnership replace anger, fear, and distance.

Question 9

How can believers today apply Paul’s appeal about Onesimus and Philemon?

Accepted Answer

This passage speaks to any broken or strained relationship between Christians. It calls us to see people not only by their past failures but by what God is doing in them now. Like Paul, we can choose gentle appeals over harsh demands, and seek reconciliation that honours both love and justice. Like Philemon, we are called to welcome repentant brothers and sisters not grudgingly, but with open hearts. And like Onesimus, someone changed by grace, we can return to hard situations as new people in Christ.

Question 10

What does this passage teach about Christian partnership and prayer?

Accepted Answer

Paul keeps talking in terms of partnership, obedience, refreshment, and shared prayer. He calls Philemon a partner, expects him to act in line with their shared faith, and asks him to prepare a lodging because he hopes to visit through their prayers. This shows that Christian relationships are not casual. They are a shared life in Christ, where we carry each other, pray for each other, and open our homes and hearts. Paul’s confidence in Philemon’s obedience shows the trust that can grow in such partnerships.

Philemon 1:8

Wherefore, though I might be much bold in Christ to enjoin thee that which is convenient,

Paul’s Appeal for Onesimus

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Paul’s Appeal for Onesimus

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