Why was Abner so angry when Ish-bosheth accused him about Rizpah?

Abner had been the main strength behind Ish-bosheth’s rule, keeping Saul’s house alive in the war against David. When Ish-bosheth accused him of going in to Rizpah, Saul’s concubine, Abner took it as an insult and a denial of his loyalty. Sleeping with a king’s concubine could be seen as reaching for the throne, so the charge was serious. Abner felt unfairly treated after showing kindness to Saul’s family and not handing Ish-bosheth over to David. His anger pushed him to leave Ish-bosheth and support David instead.

What is the significance of Abner deciding to support David’s kingdom?

Abner’s decision marks a turning point in the struggle between Saul’s house and David’s house. He openly admits that the Lord has sworn to give the kingdom to David and commits himself to help bring this about. By talking to the elders of Israel and the tribe of Benjamin, he uses his influence to move the nation toward David. This shows how God can use even hurt feelings and power struggles to carry out his promise, and how the kingdom is being moved from Saul’s line to David’s as God had said.

Why did David demand the return of Michal before making a covenant with Abner?

David asked for Michal back because she was his wife, given to him as a reward when he risked his life against the Philistines. By asking Ish-bosheth to send her, David was standing on his rightful claim, both as a husband and as someone joined to Saul’s family. Bringing Michal back also linked David again to Saul’s house in the eyes of the people. This was personal, but it also had public meaning, helping to heal the break between the two houses as the kingdom moved toward unity under David.

Why was Phaltiel weeping when Michal was taken from him?

Phaltiel had been living with Michal as his wife, so when she was taken from him and brought back to David, it tore apart a home. The passage shows him walking behind her, weeping all the way to Bahurim, until Abner tells him to go back. This scene reminds us that political decisions and power shifts can bring real pain to ordinary people. The text does not explain his heart in detail, but his tears show personal loss in the middle of a larger story about kings and kingdoms.

What does Abner’s speech to the elders of Israel tell us about God’s promise to David?

Abner reminds the elders that they had wanted David as king before, and he urges them to act because the Lord had spoken about David. He says that by David’s hand God would save Israel from the Philistines and from all their enemies. This shows that David’s kingship was not just a human choice but tied to God’s word and God’s plan to protect his people. Abner’s words admit that resisting David was resisting what God had already said, and now it was time to line up with that promise.

What does this passage show about God’s control over human conflict and ambition?

In this story, people act for mixed reasons: Abner is angry and likely thinking about his own position, Ish-bosheth is fearful and weak, David is careful and also wise in politics. Yet through all of this, God’s earlier promise about David becoming king keeps moving forward. Even a quarrel about a concubine becomes the spark that shifts power toward David. This shows that God can work through messy situations, strained relationships, and even sin and folly to bring about what he has said will happen for his people.

How does the long war between Saul’s house and David’s house relate to a believer’s life?

The long struggle between the two houses pictures how there can be a long struggle inside a believer between old ways of sin and the new life God gives. Saul’s house is fading, while David’s house grows stronger. In a similar way, the old nature loses ground over time while God’s grace grows. The wait is not easy, and the conflict is real, but God’s purpose is to bring his chosen king, and in the believer’s heart to let what is from him become stronger as what is against him weakens.

Why is this passage important for understanding David’s path to the throne?

This passage shows that David’s rise to rule all Israel did not happen in a moment. There was a long war, divided loyalties, and painful steps. Abner’s switch, the return of Michal, and the talks with the elders all show how the kingdom slowly moves from Saul’s line to David’s. It highlights David’s patience, his refusal to seize the throne by force, and his trust that God would keep his promise in due time. It also shows how God brings unity out of division through his chosen king.

2Sam.3.6

2 Samuel 3:6

KJV

¶ And it came to pass, while there was war between the house of Saul and the house of David, that Abner made himself strong for the house of Saul.

Abner Joins David

¶ And it came to pass, while there was war between the house of Saul and the house of David, that Abner made himself strong for the house of Saul.

And Saul had a concubine, whose name was Rizpah, the daughter of Aiah: and Ish-bosheth said to Abner, Wherefore hast thou gone in unto my father’s concubine?

Then was Abner very wroth for the words of Ish-bosheth, and said, Am I a dog’s head, which against Judah do shew kindness this day unto the house of Saul thy father, to his brethren, and to his friends, and have not delivered thee into the hand of David, that thou chargest me to day with a fault concerning this woman?

So do God to Abner, and more also, except, as the Lord hath sworn to David, even so I do to him;

To translate the kingdom from the house of Saul, and to set up the throne of David over Israel and over Judah, from Dan even to Beer-sheba.

And he could not answer Abner a word again, because he feared him.

¶ And Abner sent messengers to David on his behalf, saying, Whose is the land? saying also, Make thy league with me, and, behold, my hand shall be with thee, to bring about all Israel unto thee.

¶ And he said, Well; I will make a league with thee: but one thing I require of thee, that is, Thou shalt not see my face, except thou first bring Michal Saul’s daughter, when thou comest to see my face.

And David sent messengers to Ish-bosheth Saul’s son, saying, Deliver me my wife Michal, which I espoused to me for an hundred foreskins of the Philistines.

And Ish-bosheth sent, and took her from her husband, even from Phaltiel the son of Laish.

And her husband went with her along weeping behind her to Bahurim. Then said Abner unto him, Go, return. And he returned.

¶ And Abner had communication with the elders of Israel, saying, Ye sought for David in times past to be king over you:

Now then do it: for the Lord hath spoken of David, saying, By the hand of my servant David I will save my people Israel out of the hand of the Philistines, and out of the hand of all their enemies.

And Abner also spake in the ears of Benjamin: and Abner went also to speak in the ears of David in Hebron all that seemed good to Israel, and that seemed good to the whole house of Benjamin.

So Abner came to David to Hebron, and twenty men with him. And David made Abner and the men that were with him a feast.

And Abner said unto David, I will arise and go, and will gather all Israel unto my lord the king, that they may make a league with thee, and that thou mayest reign over all that thine heart desireth. And David sent Abner away; and he went in peace.

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