Question 1

Who are Amnon, Tamar, and Absalom in this passage?

Accepted Answer

Amnon, Tamar, and Absalom are all children of King David. Amnon is David’s firstborn son. Tamar is Absalom’s full sister and Amnon’s half-sister, described as a beautiful young woman and a virgin, one of the king’s daughters. Absalom is another son of David, known later for rebelling against his father. In this passage, Amnon becomes consumed with lust for Tamar, Jonadab helps him plan deceit, Tamar is the innocent victim of his violence, and Absalom becomes deeply angry and begins to hate Amnon for what he did.

Question 2

What actually happens between Amnon and Tamar in this story?

Accepted Answer

Amnon says he “loves” Tamar, but it is a sinful desire, not real love. With Jonadab’s help, he pretends to be sick and asks David to send Tamar to cook for him. When they are alone, he grabs her and demands that she sleep with him. Tamar begs him not to do this wicked thing, reminding him that such sin should not happen in Israel and that it would shame them both. He refuses to listen, overpowers her, and rapes her. Afterwards, his feelings turn into strong hatred, and he throws her out of his house.

Question 3

Why does Tamar say, "do not force me" and call it folly?

Accepted Answer

Tamar knows what Amnon wants is evil in God’s eyes and in Israel’s laws. When she says, “do not force me,” she is resisting both the violence and the sexual sin. She calls it “folly” because such an act is shameful, wicked, and against what God has commanded. She warns that it will leave her dishonored and make Amnon like one of the fools in Israel. Her words show she understands that sex is not to be taken by force and that such abuse brings deep shame, damage, and guilt, not love or blessing.

Question 4

Why did Amnon suddenly hate Tamar after he sinned against her?

Accepted Answer

The passage says the hatred Amnon felt afterward was even greater than the “love” he felt before. This shows his feelings were never true love, but selfish lust. Once he got what he wanted, his guilty conscience and shame turned against Tamar instead of leading him to repent. Sin often promises satisfaction but leaves bitterness and self-loathing. Rather than taking responsibility, Amnon pushes Tamar away, treats her harshly, and tries to remove the reminder of what he has done, adding cruelty to the violence he already committed.

Question 5

How does Tamar respond to the assault and being thrown out?

Accepted Answer

Tamar responds with deep grief. She had worn a special robe that marked her as a virgin daughter of the king. After Amnon throws her out and bolts the door, she tears this robe, puts ashes on her head, lays her hand on her head, and goes away crying. These actions are signs of mourning and public sorrow. They show that she has been deeply wronged, that her honor and future have been damaged, and that this is not a small matter. She later remains desolate in Absalom’s house, carrying the weight of what was done to her.

Question 6

What does this passage teach about lust, love, and sexual violence?

Accepted Answer

This passage shows that what calls itself “love” can actually be selfish lust. Amnon says he loves Tamar, but he ignores her words, God’s laws, and her dignity. Real love listens, protects, and honors. Lust takes, uses, and discards. The story also makes clear that forcing someone sexually is a great evil, called folly and wickedness in Israel. The violence leaves lasting wounds on Tamar and tears the family apart. It warns readers to guard their hearts, refuse sinful counsel, and see sexual violence as a serious sin before God.

Question 7

How do Jonadab and David share responsibility in what happens?

Accepted Answer

Jonadab plays a direct part by using his cleverness for evil. Instead of warning Amnon, he helps him plan the deception that leads to Tamar’s assault. David, as father and king, unknowingly helps the plan when he sends Tamar to care for Amnon. Later, when David hears what happened, he is very angry, but the passage does not show him taking action or bringing justice. His silence and lack of discipline leave Tamar without public vindication and allow anger to grow in Absalom’s heart, setting the stage for later bloodshed.

Question 8

Why does Absalom tell Tamar to be quiet and "regard not this thing"?

Accepted Answer

Absalom quickly understands what Amnon has done and asks Tamar if Amnon has been with her. He calls Amnon “thy brother” and tells her to be quiet and not focus on it. This may be his way of trying to calm her in the moment or keep the matter within the family, but it does not remove her pain. The passage says Tamar remained desolate in Absalom’s house, so her suffering does not go away. At the same time, Absalom himself does not forget. He speaks neither good nor bad to Amnon, but inwardly he hates him for what he did.

Question 9

What does this passage show about the wider brokenness in David’s family?

Accepted Answer

The story reveals deep cracks in David’s household. A son is ruled by lust, a cousin uses his mind to plan sin, a daughter is abused and left desolate, a father is angry yet passive, and another son hides hatred in his heart. The family does not deal with the sin openly or justly, and the pain spreads. This fits into the larger pattern of trouble that follows David’s earlier sin. It shows how one person’s choices can affect many others, and how silence and lack of justice allow bitterness and violence to grow.

Question 10

How can someone apply the warning of this passage to their own life today?

Accepted Answer

This passage calls readers to treat others’ bodies and dignity with deep respect, to flee from lust, and to refuse any counsel that makes sin seem easy or hidden. It encourages people to listen when someone says “no” and to see sexual violence as evil, not as a private matter. It also pushes families and communities to seek justice rather than staying silent when someone is harmed. For those who have been hurt like Tamar, the story shows that God sees their pain, even when people around them fail to stand up for them.

2 Samuel 13:1

And it came to pass after this, that Absalom the son of David had a fair sister, whose name was Tamar; and Amnon the son of David loved her.

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And it came to pass after this, that Absalom the son of David had a fair sister, whose name was Tamar; and Amnon the son of David loved her.

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